How often when something goes wrong do you blame other people? It’s natural right? We blame our parents our partners or friends for our problems.

There are always going to be problems in our lives wether we like them or not. I prefer to think of them as hurdles to overcome rather than problems, but that is another story.

Can you think of a situation in your life where you often proclaim to yourself. I wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for “x” or “y”. Though people may have helped lead you to that problem and quite rightly you could potential blame them...JUST STOP!

Stop giving away your power to other people. As soon as you keep blaming people you immediately keep yourself in that issue and will take you a lifetime to get out of it.

Why you ask? Well you have then refused any responsibility and made the problem bigger than yourself. Until you let go of blame you can’t take charge of the situation. When the situation holds power over you, you have no power.

Where can we start to regain the power and stop blaming others? You MUST take RESPONSIBILITY. When you take responsibility for your own problems you have the foundation for change. So number one is

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

Number two is

LEARN FORGIVENESS.

It can be so hard to forgive the people your blaming. Something to help is when you can realise that most people who do you wrong are acting from a place of fear or trying their best with what they know you can start forgive. Forgiveness is your strongest power.

CAN YOU CHANGE THE SITUATION?

If you can change the situation please just start one step at a time and take your time. Things don’t need to be fixed over night.

If you can’t change it then it’s time to just let go. You are wasting your energy with worry when you actually not needing to give it any.  It’s only going to lead to anxiety or other mental health issues.

THE OVERVIEW.

Taking responsibility for our problems is the only way to change them. Think of it like this. We call them OUR PROBLEMS, that’s exactly what they are. They are ours and ours alone. We can keep blaming others but it will only lead to resentment and our problems consistently being with us or showing up again and again.

Take responsibility, forgive who harmed you, let go or change. That’s it in a nutshell